I've gotta say, I'm sorry anyone gives you grief over your body. One, because it's not like you're out there telling people 'Hey, don't worry about exercising!' you're just encouraging people to have more self-confidence. And two, because, well...you're pretty damn fine. For realsies.
Still, I find myself wondering, what’s wrong with encouraging people to exercise? Yeah you’ve got the jerks who insult your body image, but there are those who just want to encourage good physical health. I admit, I’m biased: I’m overweight, have little self-confidence, and live with a mom that walks 5 miles a day. For her, it’s not whether you’re fat or skinny, it’s being healthy. Plus ice cream and other fast foods always sit in my stomach like a lead weight. Does that make me a shitty person?
I hope not ‘cause I kinda like you and I think you’re cool. ;_;
I’m sorry people are rude to me, too! I’m more sorry it’s so burned into some people’s brains that they cannot/will not accept that size =/= health. I never really intended to be out there telling anyone anything…I’m just “trying to live a better, shame-free life in one of the toughest places to do that.” Of course I would love for others to have more confidence, but I can’t make them. Only you can teach you to love you. You can learn from examples, you can surround yourself with the type of people you hope to be like, but only you know what it is you need to live your best life. I agree, I am pretty damn fine, and anyone who says otherwise just doesn’t like my appearance/personality and that’s okay. No rule says everyone has to like/be attracted to everyone. But there is a rule that says don’t treat other people shitty, because you wouldn’t want to be treated shittily.
I think the problem with encouraging anyone to do anything is health is personal and private and no one else’s business. Not to mention you can’t look at a person and have any idea how much they exercise or what they eat. I know 300+ pound professional dancers who strength train regularly and eat intuitively, and I know 180 pounds guys who get winded taking out the trash because they sit behind a PC playing games all night, drinking Mt. Dew and eating Doritos tacos. Just like only you can teach you to love you, only you can truly know your health. Unbiased doctors can help measure it with tests, but they’re not available to everyone.
That said, if you want to exercise, go for it! Personally, I don’t. At least, not in the traditional sense. I don’t force my body to do things it doesn’t enjoy. Running? HAHAHHAHA! Crunches? Not since I had to do 500 a day for 2 years in high school. I own a treadmill I refuse to use because it makes me motion sick. However, I’m not sedentary; I dance, and jog with my dogs, and love to swim and bike when the weather allows. I work on the lawn a lot, and I don’t have a car so I walk when I need something while J’s at work. I am currently looking into buying some weights because I want upper body strength. Health At Every Size taught me to find movement I enjoy, and that’s what makes me feels good. (My husband LOVES to exercise, he says it makes his endorphins kick in and he feels great all day after a morning run on the treadmill. That doesn’t happen for me. I assume it’s related to the rest of my jacked up brain chemistry.)
On the same token, if you don’t want to eat certain things, don’t! No one is forcing you to eat ice cream or pizza (I hope!!) I’ve recently given up fried things because it effs up my digestion. It’s kind of a big deal in Texas to love fried everything but I’m giving them up anyway, despite the ridicule (which pisses me off on a whole other level because, fuck’s sake, y’all come at me for being fat but then you come at me for trying to better my health? GTFO of here with that shit.) This is my body and I finally learned to love it and with that comes taking better care of it. It’s like once someone told me that I could be fat and healthy a door opened for me and I
ranwalked briskly through it and never looked back.
Health and self care is different for every person. I’m still learning what’s best for me. You need to learn what’s best for you and not worry about who thinks you’re a “shitty person.” Do what you think is right for your body and your happiness, and as long as no one’s getting hurt in the process, you’ll always be on the right path.
This has been another long-winded reply from SuperSandy.