“My conclusion about the HAES (Healthy at Every Size) philosophy is it has good intentions and some great aspects. It definitely deserves further study. However, the delivery of the message has underlying anger, judgement, and arrogance. In the end, it may also do serious harm by continuing to keep people in denial about the real state of their health. While they are “fat and happy” they may continue to be at risk of severe illness or death.” — Some Blogger
You know what else might lead to illness or death? Undercooked chicken. Shaking a stranger’s hand. A bus. Nuclear holocaust. You do not care about my health, you care about my body size. If you don’t like fatties that’s fine, but keep it to your damned self. Because do you know what else causes death? BULLYING.
USDA sets guidelines for healthier school meals
The new meal requirements are part of the Healthy, Hunger-Free Kids Act championed by Michelle Obama.
(click-through for full story)
Editor’s Note: We LOVE the idea of campaigning for healthy and hunger-free kids; we wish the war on obese kids would go away, though! Shaming fat people (or any age) isn’t very good for their mental health, which is just as (if not more) important as their physical health. Marilyn Wann (and a LOT of her followers) are taking a stand against shaming and for body peace for all.
Okay, okay, we’ll get off our soapbox and back the regularly scheduled good news.
I STAND for No Body Bashing™!
I would really, really, really love to go out with my friends and not have anyone mention calories or all the “bad” or “good” things they ate that day. It’s exhausting.
I wish you could have been at the bachelorette party I attended last night! 12 women including myself and not ONE weight or body or food comment at the restaurant/bar. I was prepared for exactly the opposite. Instead of hating on ourselves or the food, though, we all just ate and drank and made new friends. [everything went better than expected.jpg]
Think of these steps as a dance rather than a linear progression. Move from one to another and back again as fits your own personal style and journey.
- Stop weighing yourself. Shift your focus from weight & body fat to healthy behaviors and fitness.
- Live now, not in the past or future. Live your life as if you were at your desired weight—including wearing beautiful, comfortable clothing in your present size.
- Eat well & mindfully. Enjoy your food. Let nothing be off-limits—there are no forbidden foods.
- Listen to your body and give yourself and your body what you need to thrive: balanced nutrition, adequate sleep, regular exercise.
- Love & accept yourself as you are, & others as they are. Refuse to engage in fat prejudice toward yourself or others.
- Feed your soul with meaningful and enjoyable recreation, relationships, work, & spirituality. Clear out toxic environments/relationships/behavior patterns. Build a nourishing community: surrounding yourself with size-friendly people (friends, therapists, doctors) & images of happy, successful people of all sizes.
- Connect mind & body. Increase body awareness through yoga, walking meditation, tai chi, qi gong, massage, & bodywork, movement therapy (such as Feldenkrais). Focus on what your body can do and how good it can feel.
- Decrease self-criticism & body judgment, increase positive, supportive self-talk. Talk to yourself & your body the way you would a cherished friend or loved one.
- Address any emotional eating or body image issues independent of weight change. Attitudes & opinions are easier (& healthier) to change than body size.
- Invest time & money in yourself rather than the diet industry.
Vanessa Hudgens leaving the Millennium Dance Studio in Hollywood, February 2nd
I find the loose clothes that girls wear to dance in are super sexy- like 75 percent of why I watch the choreography videos on youtube is to watch them whipping around in loose tops. I know I ain’t the only one!
HIGHJACKING ALERT: What I’m about to post has very little to do with the OP, though I do heartily agree with those sentiments.
I hereby dub this the next outfit my fatabulous ass will conquer. (The first was the brightly colored bra under the lace top(s), and I conquered that look hard. At the Mexican food place, at the bar, walking my dogs, doing the laundry…I wear that shit everywhere. 2 tops for the price of 1 has never paid off so well in my life.) Now I must find/make tank tops like the one pictured above. It’s so comfy and casual and sexy all at once!
Ya know what? Body peace is starting to look really good on me! Installing that full-length mirror next to my bed so I could see my body first thing every morning was a great idea. Every day I wake up and look at myself and remind myself what I love, what I like, what I appreciate even if it’s not my [warped] aesthetic. “My body is a good body,” I say, over and over. “My body is the keeper of the strongest soul I know.”
If you haven’t heard of Health At Every Size and the body peace movement, do yourself (and your kids) a favor and Google it. In the past year I have gone from loathing and harming my body in the worst ways to adoring and celebrating it. I wish that for EVERYONE, especially in a time where billboards are shaming fat kids[TW to end all TW], there’s a “war” on “obese” people[prob needs a TW too], and the diet industry gets SIXTY BILLION DOLLARS a year from our self-hatred. Don’t be a sucker anymore, don’t buy into the BMI bullshit, be a revolutionary! LOVE your body!
((PS: I totally just set my Facebook status to match those last 2 paragraphs. *tiny victory dance!* ~gotta celebrate ‘em all, no matter how small~ Damn that’s corny. I’m gonna go now. My giddyness has has taken this some place it can’t come back from.))
But then, the truth was never really the point. Thin women don’t tell their fat friends ‘You’re not fat’ because they’re confused about the dictionary definition of the word, or their eyes are broken, or they were raised on planets where size 24 is the average for women. They don’t say it because it’s the truth. They say it because fat does not mean just fat in this culture. It can also mean any or all of the following:
Just plain icky
So when they say ‘You’re not fat,’ what they really mean is ‘You’re not a dozen nasty things I associate with the word fat.’ The size of your body is not what’s in question; a tape measure or a mirror could solve that dispute. What’s in question is your goodness, your lovability, your intelligence, your kindness, your attractiveness. And your friends, not surprisingly, are inclined to believe you get high marks in all those categories. Ergo, you couldn’t possibly be fat.